The ONE reason we can’t quit Smoking!

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We make a big fucking deal out of it !

We attach too much meaning to it . We over dramatize it. We stretch it longer than it should be .

MOST importantly we look for a reason to quit. Why do we need a reason ?

The secret is not to tell anybody. Lets chuck this cardinal need of humans to overshare and keep this to our own sweet selves.

Don’t ever talk about it .Just stop smoking like you don’t give a fuck about not smoking , like it makes no difference to you.

What’s there to lose ?
Everything. Yes. We lose A LOT. It’s bound to happen, but only when we share and talk about it . If you’re not going to talk about it , no one around you will assume that you plan to, avoiding incessant conversation.

What happens when PEOPLE notice ?
Let’s rethink about people’s attention span in 2017. No one will remember. No one cares if your holding a cigarette or a straw, unless you announce it.

BUT, someone will ask sometime or the other ?
You don’t need to explain. You can just say you don’t feel like it. Trivialise it, smoker or non smoker, you don’t owe an explanation to anyone. You won’t even realise that you actually felt like smoking, because it was so trivial you forgot about it .

Dealing with withdrawal symptoms
Well deal with it. Man up! ( 48 hours , that’s it ) Treat yourself to everything yum. Go eat, the oral fixation will gradually fade away. Otherwise make a secret twitter account and let it all out 😀

Dealing with the emotional and hormonal imbalances.
Ooooh yes , that will suck your life , energy and emotions out , but go for it , enjoy the madness, enjoy the toxins leaving your body and mind. You’ve put them in there. Time to say goodbye royally to the messed up emotions and the black tar, let it happen naturally. Don’t pay so much attention, be indifferent and it will be all cool.

What happens when you quit?
You become an awesome bathroom singer, as your voice comes back. So GO for it, fear not . You don’t need to have symptoms of dissociative identity disorder to pretend like you’ve never smoked.

In all fairness , YOU are a rockstar and YOU can do it .  Already proud of you for wanting to read this article. Much love !

The greatest LOVE Affair!

IMG_2736Love can be found anywhere. Music, art , people , nature , food, poetry. Everything conceived with love, creates an intoxicating cycle of love. Feeding the lovesick , nurturing the soul , calming the mind and warming the heart. Pure feeling of ecstasy emitting heavy doses of oxytocin. We all want it, keep going back to it. Continuously searching for that song , that painting, that person, that flower , that dish, those words. Addiction is sweet and love ? the genesis of addiction.

What makes us go back ? Is it just the hormones ? Is it just the feeling ? Well, TRUST. Yes. Trusting and chasing that high. Trusting that source of delirium to give us what we want. Off course we all know what happens , when contact is broken with the source.

So what is the greatest love affair?

Have you ever experienced, how is it to spend time with yourself? Mind, body , soul committed to oneself. Completely shutting off all external experience. How does it feel? Lovely or lonely?

Completely dissolving in oneself is trust. Following your gut is trust. Trusting yourself amongst others is courage. Trusting yourself in isolation is love. Are you are in love with yourself?

When does a person write about love ? Well, this is my greatest love affair.



Why do people explain themselves? Whose need is it? The one explaining, or the one listening?

You don’t owe an explanation to anyone. You don’t owe anyone a ‘YES’. You don’t owe anyone anything that does not add value to your life. Absolutely not!

We would all love that, the way we see the world , is how others see the world. We continuously desire, our style of travel , selection of a partner, size of our wardrobe, our choice of food, hygiene practices, placement of furniture is resonating with another. These normal daily decisions should be, for us and us only.
At times the desire grows beyond what it should be. Striving to take control or manage, is an illusory state of being. Explanations do not equate control. You can’t control what others think.

Many a times we do things , even strange to us : Random adoption of beliefs , unique new social circle, different level of engagement with family, an abrupt disconnect from an important part of our life , complete isolation, absurd career moves , dangerous hobbies. These acts are normal of human nature.

Attributing and justifying them to self – preservation, impulsiveness, convenience or unconsciously going through life should be nobody’s business.

No matter how ordinary or extreme, you don’t owe…..

The one’s who get you , don’t need verbal or textual manuscripts from you. Neither do you feel the need. You are enough in yourself. Really, we alone are enough in ourselves, with nothing to prove to anybody! – Maya Angelou. We owe ourselves to not cross thin lines, between respecting accountability and respecting ourselves.