Digital Detox

unplugIt has been a while since DDX took place. A couple of weeks to be precise. Initially I imagined I would be the queen of intersection between technology and self in 7 days flat. Surprise, Surprise , planning fallacy to the rescue!

My Plan
Deleting whatsap and other apps gradually which were not adding any real value to my life. Using my phone for 2 hours in a day inclusive of calls/ texts/taking selfies/miscellaneous. Keeping my phone at one place at home and just accessing it from that spot. Using the internet for a limited amount of time in a day and being mindful of the sites I am browsing.

What Actually Happened
To start with all these ideas are completely awe inspired by the minimalists .

All of the above , mindful app usage, phone usage and internet usage has taken place. Gradually I have achieved full clarity as to why I am using my phone and the internet. There is no more mindless exchange of information and dialogue. I know exactly why I want to talk to a certain person when I dial their number. Most importantly there is no unnecessary exchange of texts. I have a purpose when I go online now . The laptop is shut down everyday and put back in its bag like any other gadget should be cared for. Entertainment does not overpower intention anymore !

What I am reminded of AGAIN
Conversations should be intentional, meaningful and succinct. Hearing someone’s voice definitely makes me smile wider than looking at emoticons (still don’t know what half of them mean). The phone and the internet are very very powerful tools. They must be used with intention, precaution and off course, love .

YES
We all have our own circumstances .We all have our romantic and apathetic phases in our relationship with technology. In finding balance on this spectrum of emotional dichotomy lets click the right buttons!

What happened after giving away stuff ?

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Everything changes , just everything. There is quite a lot to process within and around you. A lot of what you called yours is gone.

Minimalism is you, it has always been there, it remains.Giving away stuff  totally depends on you.

Physical
The first noticeable development after I decluttered was this massive physical space. Its like I landed a nice playground in my bedroom where I can run around and play with my cat. More room to exercise, meditate, take a walk haha. With this increased room in my life, physiologically I felt more free and flexible.

Mentally
Feeling energetic about the physical space and this lovely body that is carrying me, my mind cleared up as well. I overcame procrastination habits, started focusing and paying a deeper level of attention to everything that surrounds me.. I have more time to slow down, breathe, think. I don’t long for any external influences to make myself happy.

These heightened levels of energy and sensitivity are a constant state of being now. This expanded awareness of the world around me helps me understand and engage more intentionally.

Peace and joy come from me and not mine. What is mine is only temporary, me has been and will always be.

Consumption
I am regularly investing in taking care of my body and surroundings. To keep my mood chirpy and environment pretty, I just depend on me. Food and shopping are no more a routine. I have stopped eating out.

Everything I put in and around my body is for nourishment, not entertainment.

Before buying anything I very thoroughly examine why do I need it? I have analyzed my consumption patterns of the past and discarded all futile practices. Perishable or non perishable, this stuff I own or I buy in the future, will be mine but never me. Nothing that I can’t walk away from 30 seconds flat!

People around me
Whatever I do , it does have an impact on this planet and more closely on people who surround me on a daily basis. Having better mental capacity, I believe I have a much deeper understanding of the person I actually am.

I have let go, leaving others to their otherness.

I have dropped all conclusions about everyone I know and everything I know about them. Everyday is a new day and so much to learn. Breaking habits, cutting off the past and enjoying the moment. Contributing and loving, always remembering, you don’t owe anybody an explanation!

Technology
Massive digital detox. I intentionally use the internet. My phone hasn’t been substituted as my life partner. I consciously kill the noise, with intentional absorption and release of dialogue.

Travel
I travel very very light , carrying absolute essentials. Thought of repeating clothes and washing them doesn’t make me cringe hahahaa. I travel mostly without a plan. I trust myself, my gut instinct very deeply. With less luggage, I move faster and think smarter. Nothing to hold me back anywhere. If you’re having second thoughts, drop the second bag and the plus one . RIDE SOLO! Also, budget travel is my aphrodisiac here: D

I feel free! Freedom from stuff that could possibly weigh me down, experiences and relationships that pulled me back. With this increased amount of time and energy I am free to do whatever I wish to.

It does get lonely sometimes with no tv, friends out partying, you having to eat healthy food because of gym the next day, not in the mood for Netflix or reading, don’t have anything to talk about. Couple of minutes pass by and then I cheer up, think of my journey and write down my life experience like this. I start smiling by the end of this and just feel so happy that I am finally doing this.

I feel blessed to have reached this stage, creating and not only consuming. I am so so thankful that I can add value through my experiences and writing in someone’s life.

Also wonderful people, if anyone ever wants to share their story or discuss anything at all, please please feel absolutely free to reach out 😀

How i started DECLUTTERING my stuff.

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Childhood
Since a young age I was comfortable with the idea of cleaning, organizing and keeping it neat! I would get restless if I had something in my room, which I didn’t regularly use. It ranged from toys to books to stationery to wardrobe.Clothes were always arranged in such a way, that all of them were worn! I never flinched at the idea of giving away stuff

University
After high school , during university , shopping was fun. We didn’t have to wear uniform anymore. I loved buying clothes and perfumes . There was a sense of euphoria in owning this stuff , though I did keep a track and did not have any problems in giving away old stuff.

Very vaguely I remember reading an article by the minimalists at that time . My first article and my first impression was , how clean, how white in color everything seems, haha . I really liked the concept but didn’t know if I wanted to implement it or not.

Work
Once work started, excitement went to another level. With this advanced level of euphoria , shopping also graduated with this new salary. Again, in the whole process, I had no desire to accumulate stuff and was open to giving it away.

Sudden Action
I quit my job after working for two years. I have been staying home with family and doing everything that makes me happy ( Writing, Travelling, Course in Photoshop, State level Swimming) . One day I JUST decided out of the blue , to DE clutter more ruthlessly than I generally do. That was the absolute start.

I realised everything that i call mine will never be me. These clothes, books, linen, stationery will never be me.There is way too much of mine. It was time to get rid of it. SHIFT ATTENTION FROM MINE TO ME. Focusing on me, focusing on bare essentials.

Minimalism is you , Minimalism is me. Mine and yours is stuff and experiences gathered through which we are living life.

I started reducing my physical possessions. Questioning everything I owned and everything new I planned to purchase. I started following The Minimalists, Colin Wright, Leo Babuata, Joshua Becker, Thriving Minimalist , Rob Greenfield. These people gave me the courage to go ahead and start reducing.

Best Outcome
The turning point was this massive amount of space. I made room for everything that adds value to my life. That is how my cat came into my life. I could accommodate his litter tray, toys and a huge amount of space for him to play.

Once this exchange happened, I just knew this is the way I want to live. With more physical space, came more mental space. It’s like everything fell into place.

Currently
I am consciously aware of the items I own. Questioning where I spend my time, energy, money is a very natural process. My room is a clutter free zone in the house. My next move is to digitize these books I have.

In the past I enjoyed DE cluttering and buying at the same time. Now I make willful efforts to examine what do I really want and need. Before buying anything I make these lists, wait and revise.

When I feel that YES the time is right, I answer these 3 questions.…

1.How sustainable is this ?
2. Will it increase my productivity ?
3. One last time, do I really really need this ?

Even if you don’t want to ask these 3 questions and you’re still wondering………………….
you will survive! Let go. Be fierce.

We all know that our essentials don’t make us doubt and question,
only these other things , this other stuff, the just in case create confusion!

 

A perceived idea of Minimalism.

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Hi errybody ! I have been consciously focusing on what I believed constituted minimalism for 1.5 years.

Let’s share what we know of Minimalism
It’s living with less , living a simpler life. Having experiences that add value . Minimalism is not deprivation or living frugally. It is the exact opposite , which is living in abundance. Abundance of time , abundance of energy, abundance of space ( mental and physical ). Getting rid of excess, making way for essentials, which brings joy to our lives, intentional living, and meaningful relationships are a part of minimalism.

Also
There is no yardstick to measure a person’s degree of minimalism. There is no maximum or minimum limit to how much of minimalism you incorporate in your life. The number of items you own does not define the level of minimalist you are. Everyone’s practice of minimalism is different, but core values are the same.

All around us
Art, food, travel, design, architecture etc aren’t shying away from this minimal approach either!

Its time
People all over the world are embracing minimalism. Different cultures are adapting their own version of intentionally living with less. It’s time to come together, to understand these different motivations. It’s time to globally create more and consume less!

TRUTH IS
This is all a perceived idea of minimalism. All of this is an explanation of what is yours but not you. All of this defines the life you are living through what you have gathered. All of this that surrounds you is yours, but not you.

This reductionist approach to our lifestyle definitely has made what is ours very very exclusive. It has greatly helped us to narrow down and re- prioritize. We as natural minimalists must remember minimalism is not a superpower or a mixture of some tough decisions we have to thrust on ourselves.

Minimalism already is you, the very basic and core of YOU.

What is this Minimalism ?

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YOU. Yes, minimalism is you. What is it , if not you ?

Every moment of your life, minimalism is you. Every moment is made up of you, the very bare essentials and then yours, but first you.

You came into this world with just YOU and that’s how you will go.

What you assemble, all the stuff you put in your head and bodies , all the stuff that surrounds your physical being is yours but not you.

Driving a car or that phone in our hands.All this information we gather and all the stuff we purchase, is all ours but not us. Giving away what is ours , may change the way we live life. It does not change us, it never will be us.

We live life through what we have gathered.

Drop everything that is not you, what are you left with?

We are all born minimalist and we remain minimalist our entire lives. Its just that our attention gets diverted to everything that is ours but not us.

Everything that is ours is just an ACCUMULATION, its not us.

You are a worthwhile life and you deserve attention. Shift attention from yours to you. Shift focus from this perceived idea of minimalism.

What is yours is not you, no matter how much of yours > you. You is Minimalism, always have been and will be.

There is nothing to lose in this MINIMALISM. All that you’re gaining is you, more and more of you, by focussing less on yours.

How loud do you wish to be?

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Noise and silence are opposite ends of a spectrum. Life experiences help us strive to maintain a balance between the amount of noise and silence coming in our life.

But then, life happens and noise wins or we let it. Silence has been reduced to a rare exotic form , of just being.

Being in silence, being at peace , being with one self is considered the highest state of being which is a shame . Time to renovate Maslow’s hierarchy. Being at peace should be our most basic state from where we operate.

What exactly is this noise and where does it come from?
It’s hard to ignore as it’s all around us! Noise is within us, yes we are NOISE. Most of what we take in and what we give out, what is it , if not noise?

Before we say haaawww, one question to ponder upon : Is it necessary ?
All the information we soak in and everything that comes out ! Is it necessary ? We can really really choose and channelise, where we pick up, what from. This unnatural FOMO ( fear of missing out ) is just unnatural. Let our doppelganger save the world tonight! Its okay to not care. Its okay to not know. What matters is , how much do you know yourself ? What matters is , how proportionate is what we speak to the 2:1 ratio ? Two beautiful eyes , two sweet ears and one tiny mouth. How audible are you on this spectrum of shutup to loud ?

Next time before mindless absorption and release of dialogue

Let’s keep in mind

1. It it adding any value to us and others ?

2. What is the purpose of what i hear and what i speak ?

3. Is my intention, to understand others or to explain myself ?

Sometimes , to kill the noise , i personally like to listen to birds chirping. Makes me smile, these birds on this huge tree , not twitter 😛

The ONE reason we can’t quit Smoking!

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We make a big fucking deal out of it !

We attach too much meaning to it . We over dramatize it. We stretch it longer than it should be .

MOST importantly we look for a reason to quit. Why do we need a reason ?

The secret is not to tell anybody. Lets chuck this cardinal need of humans to overshare and keep this to our own sweet selves.

Don’t ever talk about it .Just stop smoking like you don’t give a fuck about not smoking , like it makes no difference to you.

What’s there to lose ?
Everything. Yes. We lose A LOT. It’s bound to happen, but only when we share and talk about it . If you’re not going to talk about it , no one around you will assume that you plan to, avoiding incessant conversation.

What happens when PEOPLE notice ?
Let’s rethink about people’s attention span in 2017. No one will remember. No one cares if your holding a cigarette or a straw, unless you announce it.

BUT, someone will ask sometime or the other ?
You don’t need to explain. You can just say you don’t feel like it. Trivialise it, smoker or non smoker, you don’t owe an explanation to anyone. You won’t even realise that you actually felt like smoking, because it was so trivial you forgot about it .

Dealing with withdrawal symptoms
Well deal with it. Man up! ( 48 hours , that’s it ) Treat yourself to everything yum. Go eat, the oral fixation will gradually fade away. Otherwise make a secret twitter account and let it all out 😀

Dealing with the emotional and hormonal imbalances.
Ooooh yes , that will suck your life , energy and emotions out , but go for it , enjoy the madness, enjoy the toxins leaving your body and mind. You’ve put them in there. Time to say goodbye royally to the messed up emotions and the black tar, let it happen naturally. Don’t pay so much attention, be indifferent and it will be all cool.

What happens when you quit?
You become an awesome bathroom singer, as your voice comes back. So GO for it, fear not . You don’t need to have symptoms of dissociative identity disorder to pretend like you’ve never smoked.

In all fairness , YOU are a rockstar and YOU can do it .  Already proud of you for wanting to read this article. Much love !

The greatest LOVE Affair!

IMG_2736Love can be found anywhere. Music, art , people , nature , food, poetry. Everything conceived with love, creates an intoxicating cycle of love. Feeding the lovesick , nurturing the soul , calming the mind and warming the heart. Pure feeling of ecstasy emitting heavy doses of oxytocin. We all want it, keep going back to it. Continuously searching for that song , that painting, that person, that flower , that dish, those words. Addiction is sweet and love ? the genesis of addiction.

What makes us go back ? Is it just the hormones ? Is it just the feeling ? Well, TRUST. Yes. Trusting and chasing that high. Trusting that source of delirium to give us what we want. Off course we all know what happens , when contact is broken with the source.

So what is the greatest love affair?

Have you ever experienced, how is it to spend time with yourself? Mind, body , soul committed to oneself. Completely shutting off all external experience. How does it feel? Lovely or lonely?

Completely dissolving in oneself is trust. Following your gut is trust. Trusting yourself amongst others is courage. Trusting yourself in isolation is love. Are you are in love with yourself?

When does a person write about love ? Well, this is my greatest love affair.